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We all know how draining and irritating a whining child can be, especially in a day care environment where a chorus of multiple whiners can seriously challenge your sanity. The constant, ongoing, nerve grating torture that is a whiny child is much harder to handle than a full blown, short lived tantrum. Fear not, it is possible to deal with the offending whinester and restore some semblance of peace and tranquillity.

Hunger, tiredness, boredom and feeling unwell are factors that can precipitate whining sessions. Attempting to identify if any of these are the triggers can help minimize the whinefest. Unfortunately, whining is a very unattractive trait that, if left to it's own devices, can become a method of communicating which may last for many years. Though there is no sure fire way of curing whining there are methods you can use to help prevent outbreaks.

Attracting adult attention can often be the reason a child whines usually as a last resort. They are demanding adult recognition via this annoying method in a last ditch attempt. Adults, we have the power to acknowledge the little ones. Listening to what kids are trying to say can often head off the irritating behavior. Get down to their level and find out what's going on. If necessary, spend some one on one time helping with a puzzle or reading a story. Peaceful times can often be achieved via a little constructive attention.

Children need to learn the difference between various tones of voice and discovering how whining sounds is no different. They need to be taught that people don't like, and won't listen to a whiny voice because it is not pleasant. Help them to understand the negative effect of that sound by involving them in role play or tape recording the whiny voice versus the normal voice. Allowing a child to hear himself may help him grasp the idea that whining isn't so hot. Remember to praise the use of a normal voice when appropriate.

A child will whine when she is unable to express herself. Try to recognise when this is the case and instead of reprimanding try to help the child verbalize their needs. Help her with the verbage so she is encouraged to tell you what is wrong. Discussing feelings and needs means the child has less reason to whine. The realisation that talking about her issues is more productive than whining will result from your positive attention.

When a child is whining distraction is a great tool for ending the tirade. The whines can be silenced by completely switching the subject and animatedly indicating something fun. 'Does that bird have an umbrella?'. A bored child is a whiney child so recognise the signs of a kid on the road to boredom city. Introduce a fun and compelling activity thus anticipating and ending tedium. The whining option won't be considered when a child is busy.

A child seeking recognition recognises any attention as a success so don't do negative attention. Avoid yelling. Never label a child a whiner - this is not a standard or expectation you want to set for them. Finally, remain calm and NEVER give in to whining. Though you may be gnashing your teeth stick to your guns. Giving in after 20 minutes of incessant whining sends a message to the child that persisting with this behavior pays off. The child will learn that you respond positively only to a normal voice. It's tough but stay the course and you could have a positively serene enviornment.